How to schedule a forum retreat

Start about six months out

Six months is the window where executive calendars are still open enough for honest answers but close enough that people can judge them. Earlier and you get optimistic yeses that evaporate; later and board dates, results weeks and family holidays have already landed.

Poll every candidate day, then read for a run

Do not ask people to choose between three pre-baked options — you will pick the wrong three. Open the range across the months you are considering and let everyone mark each day.

Then read the results grid horizontally. You are looking for a run of two or three adjacent days where the same people are available, not a single top-ranked date.

• Exclude weekends if the retreat is a working one, or keep only weekends if partners are included.
• Treat maybe answers as recoverable: a one-day shift often converts several of them.
• Ignore the day that wins by one vote if it breaks the block — the block is the point.

Send it to the assistants, not just the members

The person who knows what is really blocked is usually not the member. Copy assistants directly, name the deadline in the message, and make clear that answering on the member's behalf is expected rather than presumptuous.

Close the decision publicly

Announce the block as settled, hold the venue, and send calendar invitations the same week. A retreat date that stays provisional gets overwritten by whatever lands next.